ABOUT ME

Hi, I’m Sasha Bemrose, a specialist with years of hands-on experience supporting parents and families. I have been working as a Speech and Language Therapist for over 30 years; for the NHS, Surestart, in schools and then privately with my own practice. I have undertaken training in attachment theory at the Neufeld Institute and I am an Advanced Practitioner in Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS). I have published articles in peer reviewed journals and won awards for my work supporting families, including The Welsh Woman of the Year Award.

My work focusses on teaching you the principles of my approach; how to establish a close and connected relationship with your child or teenager through an attachment based developmental persepctive. We will look at what is getting in the way of them realising their true potential as human beings. We will explore how to build a relationship which helps your child or teenager feel safe, so they can relax and enjoy life. It’s not about allowing your child to do whatever they want; it’s about re-establishing your natural authority in a strong, thoughtful and caring way which does not jeapordise their healthy development.

You will discover how to provide your child or teenager with a mindful, secure and reliable parental presence.

But it’s not enough just to know what to do. The most challenging part is to change your own patterns of behaving and to become confident in responding in new and positive ways.

That’s why the core of my work consists of building a close and supportive relationship with the adults supporting the child, be it parents, carers or educators. In this way, your experiences are seen, heard, and validated, which allows you to make the necessary changes to best support your child.

Many behaviour management techniques are based on punishments and rewards. Experience has shown me that these methods are at best only successful in the short-term to control a child’s behaviour and are at worse ineffective and harmful. Instead, I focus on understanding the child’s or teenager’s feelings and needs, so we can get to the root cause of the problem behind their behaviour. This way of working is respectful, kind and nurturing for the child (as well as the adults).

For years, I struggled to find help for my own son’s challenging and violent behaviour. He is autistic with a PDA profile (not diagnosed until he was 15 years old). When I couldn’t find the help I needed, I took matters into my own hands and trained in the attachment based developmental approach (See Dr Neufeld). This gave me the skills to completely transform my son’s behaviour in unimaginable ways. He is now 19 and we have a close and connected relationship. He is a happy and caring young man who is finding his place in this world.